How to Overcome Porn Addiction – Step 3: The Battle of the Spirit

“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”
Ephesians 6:12

There is a war happening all around us that most of us aren’t aware of. It’s a war of attrition. The enemy’s weapons are pleasure and entertainment and so many of us have fallen under this onslaught. The beauty of it all is that we can each be resurrected to fight once more if only we are willing to suffer the pain that will come with the commitment to fight once more.

You’ve worked on gaining control over your thoughts, and you’ve implemented a serious workout and diet plan, or at the very least you’re working on that now. If not, stop here and go back to Step Two. Check out some of the several links there and find a workout program like Death Blow to the Dad Bod or Fight Club Physique. Do it. Commit to disciplined way of consuming food and drink. These are not the end all be all and will not, ALONE, get you to permanently overcome porn addiction, but they will absolutely help. Discipline is extremely powerful. Use it.

Enough on that, I want to talk now about the Battle of the Spirit. I said early on in this series that this doesn’t happen without God. Good things don’t happen without God. If you don’t believe in God and humble yourself before Him, staying consistent in prayer, then I doubt any of this will work at all in the long term. Temptation is a favored weapon of the enemy and he uses the promise of pleasure to hook people and make them slave to their own addictions.

However, there is no greater pleasure than a having a relationship with the Creator of all things. The enemy uses temporary but instant gratification to blind us so that we can’t focus on pursuing God. Guilt overrides our reason and we think we aren’t good enough to seek God because we can’t even control ourselves. But the truth is that God knows we are fallen and sacrificed His own life so that we could stand before Him in spite of our sin. There is nothing more beautiful than that.

But, if we’re constantly being dragged down by giving into temptation then it’s difficult to see anything past our own shame. What we need to do is learn to lean on the power and presence of the Holy Spirit. I’m working on this every day and I fail, just like we all do, and just like you will, often. But it’s not about how often we fall, it’s about letting God help us back up every time. He wants to. Let Him. There’s a saying that I’ve heard several times in my life, “Let go and let God.” It’s simple yet powerful. Let go of trying to overcome this alone and let God help you. He created you and wants you to live a life worthy of what He’s given you, a good life full of His love and light, not one festering in the darkness of shame and despair.

So let God do God, and you listen and obey. Be humble and not haughty. Don’t let pride be an obstacle for you. Let that crap go. Recognize that we have an enemy who wants us to be stuck in that place and who will do everything in his power to keep us there. Know that committing to humility over pride is one-hundred-percent necessary if you are to overcome this addiction. After all, if you could do it in your own strength then you wouldn’t be reading this. I don’t say that to bring you down, but because I understand that place. I couldn’t do it without full commitment to a new lifestyle and remaining humble before the Lord of all creation.

The goal of this entire series is to help you overcome these demonic temptations so that you can live free of that weight. The truth is that there is always going to be weight to carry, but we can feel good about carrying the weight of a disciplined and consecrated life whereas carrying the weight of shame will only lead to destruction.

Thankfully, it’s not complicated to choose to lean on the presence and power of God’s Holy Spirit rather than depending on your own strength.

John 14:15-17 says “If you love me, you will keep My commandments. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him. You know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you.”

The world does not see or know the Holy Spirit, only those who have given their lives to God, who love Him and who obey His commandments. If you haven’t done so, do. You can do that right here and now.

Romans 8:26 says, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.”

The Holy Spirit will help you in your weakness, when you’re faced with temptations too strong for you to overcome on your own. He will intercede in Heaven for you when you don’t know what to say or how to say it.

Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

Put your faith in God, receive the Holy Spirit and grow to experience all the wonderful fruit of abiding in the presence of God. That may sound silly to some of you, but that’s because you haven’t lived it. Exodus 15:3 says, “The LORD is a warrior, the LORD is His name.” There is a spiritual battle raging all around us right now, and those who try to war without the the greatest Warrior of all time will never be completely victorious. If you don’t know Him, fix that now.

If you’re a Christian who is struggling with porn addiction, now is the time to gear up with armor of God and fully put your faith in Him.

Ephesians 6:10-18 says the following:

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

Feeling bad doesn’t do anything but keep you from reaching for new heights. Don’t sulk. Also, don’t continue to try to overcome this in your own strength. God has made it abundantly clear that He wants to help you. Let go, and let God!

A quick recap:

Step One: Get control over your thoughts. Take each one captive unto the obedience of Christ.

Step Two: Go all in and gain full control over one area of your life, which will make discipline in all the other areas easier to maintain. Build upon Step One by memorizing some Scriptures and repeating them to yourself when your mind wanders to thoughts which will cause you to stumble.

Step Three: Start putting your faith fully in God, in everything, and depending upon the Holy Spirit to help you in times of weakness and temptation. Don’t sulk, be aware of the battle, and believe in the mightiest Warrior in existence.

That’s it for now, but Step Four will be up soon.

Until next time,
JP

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