How to Overcome Porn Addiction – Step 2: The Battle of the Body

Step One was all about mastering your mind; your thoughts. Have you taken the time to really put in effort in this area? Have you seen progress? If you’re ready, read on, but if not then no worries. Take your time and at least gain some traction in the area of mental discipline, in taking captive every thought, before moving on. It’s not a joke. Serious time and effort should be invested in every one of these areas. As we go over Step Two, think about how much energy you’ll have to invest and ask yourself if you’re putting a comparable amount into mastering your mind.

You can easily invest all of yourself into one of these areas and neglect the others, which isn’t good. I’m having you focus on one thing at a time so that you aren’t forced to dive into the fray and battle everything at once, but once you begin working in an area, keep at it even as we add more things to work on.

Now, Step Two will cover the Battle of the Body. Of course each of these areas are related, because they each together make up an entire being, but as I’ve said, overcoming addiction requires intentional focus in each of these areas. Just as it is important to discipline your mind, so too must you discipline your body.

The benefits of physical self-discipline are many. Before I go into that, what do I mean by “physical self-discipline”? I’m talking about exercise and diet, but not just those things in the general sense, I mean making yourself do the things you don’t want to do so that you gain control over your desires and your actions. I’m talking about a vow of abstinence from those things which drive you to lose control.

For instance, I don’t consume animal products. There are a lot of awesome benefits to this diet, but the one that relates directly to overcoming porn addiction and that is the number one reason why I decided to begin eating like this, is discipline. I tried for years and years, unsuccessful in my attempts to overcome addictions in my own strength. Ultimately, as I’ve said many times before, I turned to God and asked Him for the strength needed.

It is my firmly held belief that God desires me to live a life which is devoid of excess pleasures. However I’ve lived most of my life in pursuit of those pleasures because they were what I used to numb my emotional pain. I know many of you are in similar situations. My inability to maintain control over myself was extreme, and extreme measures were and are required for me in this area.

One of my major problem areas was food. I was 265lbs at my heaviest, and that is something I never want to experience again. I realized my folly when, several years ago, I took my kids to the playground and for the first time in my life I was too exhausted and overweight to go play with them. Before that, and again now, I played as hard as they did and it was so, so fun. I love playing with my kids and the fact that I was too fat to keep up with them hurt. Bad. And it saddened them which sucked even more.

Even after losing the weight I regained a lot of it and then lost it and then gained it back and if you can’t tell there was a weird yo-yo thing going on. The only thing that has proven to allow me full control over my diet and to not feel guilty when I do eat something that’s not the healthiest is to remove all animal products. I’ve tried keto and IF and vegetarian and any number of other things. I know those things work for many people, too, so I’m not knocking them in that regard. I’m just saying that sometimes extreme measures are required.

For me, I don’t eat anything that has animal by-products in it, and that has improved my life in every way. I am a much more disciplined man because of this choice. Not only with food, though. Following this strict diet has bled over into all areas of my life. Maintaining strict control over what I eat has cultivated in me a much more reasoned and disciplined mindset in general. I’ve successfully overcome alcohol, porn, and video game addictions by making the choice to refuse to budge in the area of my food intake. It wasn’t this alone that helped me to overcome porn addiction, but all of these steps in tandem which did it. And I don’t think it would have worked if I decided not to take this or any other step seriously.

Say what you will about this diet, and I know many will because there are a great many misconceptions about it, but I have never felt happier, stronger, healthier, or more in control than I do now. I kept this under wraps for a very long time as it was something I needed to do for me regardless of what others said or thought. And yeah, I did drop to a 95% plant based diet in the middle, but even that little bit of leeway screwed up the discipline in other areas of my life. So I’m 100% plant based again to stay.

I’m not trying to make the case that you have to follow the same diet in order to overcome porn addiction, though if overcoming your addiction is important enough to you and you aren’t able to do so any other way, I highly recommend it. I wasn’t able to do so using other methods but this one shift has made a world of difference.

Ultimately, I do what I want to do irrespective of the opinions of others, and you should too. There are many other reasons why I think this diet is great, but even if it didn’t have a lot of other benefits it would still be worth it in order to overcome the addictions I had been battling for years.

Of course it may be some other area in your life that you can really tighten up your discipline which will help with your porn addiction. If you don’t want to start with diet, though it’s a really good place to start, begin with working out. Both diet and exercise fall into the category of physical self-discipline and focusing intently in one or both of these areas will have immense positive effects in all areas of your life, especially addiction.

In large part it’s about control. Addiction makes us feel like we have no control over our lives and in truth when addiction is present we have very little say. The object of our desire always overrides our better judgement, whether it’s porn, food, drugs, games, etc. It takes our free choice from us. The goal here is to wrest our free will back from the grip of the addiction and to maintain our hold on it. That’s why I’m committed to sticking to this diet. It is the one area where I have complete control, allowing me control in every area, and I’m not letting it go.

I don’t want to undersell exercise here. It is extremely necessary that you commit to a workout program and never stop. You don’t have to be a Olympic level athlete, but you do have to give regular, consistent effort. If you want to beat porn addiction then you have to take this seriously. You have to get diet and exercise under control. Not only will continued discipline in these areas bleed over into every other part of your life, but exercising will also free your excess energy, help you to grow physically and mentally stronger, and become more confident in yourself and your ability to stay strong in the face of temptation.

If you’re a man and you’re starting at square one here, don’t beat yourself up about it. There are some amazing resources out there designed to assist you with the step-by-step process of starting to reclaim who you were created to be. In fact, I wrote a book called Toxic: A Book for Men which is all about your first steps as a new man. If you’re looking for a challenge, check out 31DtM or SOULCON. If you want defined workout and diet plans check out AJAC or Craig James. It would be remiss of me to not recommend joining the Fraternity of Excellence and Gibborim. FoE is a global group of men who are getting after it in every area, building each other up and sharing expert level knowledge and advice in a very wide range of topics including fitness and health, business and finances, crypto and investing, gardening, homesteading, survival, firearms, marketing, publishing, editing, frame, style, sex and relationships, music, content creation, philosophy, politics, technology, graphic design, and most importantly, faith in God. Gibborim is a Christ-centered movie production company that is also a group of more than 7,000 men who are working together everyday to grow more physically, mentally, and spiritually disciplined and to grow closer to Christ while spreading the good news of the gospel. Both of these groups have had a tremendous impact on my life and I cannot recommend them enough.

If you’ve already got every other area of your life dialed in, which I doubt if you’re struggling with porn addiction, then you’re likely just making excuses. If you’re strong enough to be disciplined in everything but porn addiction then you’re problem isn’t your inability to overcome that addiction, it’s that you don’t want to overcome it enough. The proof is in the pudding. You’re fit, strong, healthy, and don’t have other addictions? Then you’re strong enough to set aside this one if you only want to do so badly enough. Maybe you haven’t gotten to the point where it’s started to ruin your life. I don’t know. I will tell you that you should probably sit down and have an honest conversation with yourself. No lying or excuses allowed.

Anyway, the point of this series isn’t to make all of your choices for you, it’s to lay the groundwork and tell you that you may, like me, need to go to lengths considered extreme by modern culture if you want to regain control over your life. I chose diet to be my major all in largely because food was a major issue for me, and that choice has proven to be a good one. It’s also a great idea because it is something that I deal with everyday, multiple times a day. You can focus on something else if you don’t want to go all in on diet at first, but I don’t think anything else will be quite as powerful. Or maybe I’m wrong. I’ll leave that up to you to prove or disprove.

Ultimately, if this is something that you need to overcome then you’ll do what’s necessary to accomplish that. You have the ability to overcome this. Don’t lie to yourself and make excuses. Don’t say you’re not strong enough. When the urge strikes, find something more powerful to focus on. For me that thing is quoting scriptures. This always helps me when I do it and it can help you too. A favorite is “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” from Philippians 4:13. I’m taking part in SOULCON Challenge Eleazar right now and this is actually very closely related to today’s challenge. Find a couple of scriptures which relate to overcoming adversity and memorize them. Start with Philippians 4:13, learn it, know it, and repeat it to yourself every time that addiction rears its ugly head.

And when you’re struggling with diving all in with diet or exercise, remember these verses. Saying them out loud will force your mind to focus on them and not on the addiction. It will get easier with time. You will experience growing pains, I promise. Just keep moving forward and know that God is on your side.

I could ramble on all day, but I want you to go and start thinking about how your going to implement something like this into your life. I can’t overstate the power of taking control of something in your life and allowing that to bleed into other areas. Figure out what is right for your life and do it. If you don’t know, just start with diet and focus on it until that control becomes second nature.

Self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, and I can’t end this post without saying that none of this was possible without God. He wants you to have self-control to such a degree that He made it a fruit of having His Holy Spirit reside in you, His temple. God is absolutely on your side. If you remember that when temptation comes you will have an easier time of defeating it. If God wasn’t on your side then you wouldn’t be here right now to be reading this anyway, so there’s that.

And as a final note, I’m not saying you can’t successfully get diet and exercise under control at the same time, I’m saying that if you opt for an extreme diet, it’ll be easier to focus primarily on that while also working out your body. If you opt to go all in on a new workout regimen, focus on that and still work on getting your diet under control in the background. I know a lot of men who go all in on everything all at once and burn out rapidly and lose what little progress they made. I did it. Don’t do that. There’s time enough to get one thing mastered at a time before moving on.

If that’s not clear, or if you have any questions at all, I’m more than happy to answer them to the best of my ability. Just drop a comment below or hit me up on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, or send an email and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.

Step Three will be up soon.

Until then,
JP

P.S. If you’re a man, I wrote a book for you that will help you regain control over your life. You can pick up a copy HERE for only $4.99 or read it for free with Kindle Unlimited. There are also paperback copies available.

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